Everest conqueror shunned by village

Shocking incident, Rahul Yelange, who was successfully climbed Mount Everest in May 2012, was boycotted by elders of his own Budruk village in Raigadh district of Maharashtra.

The problem started last March when the newlyweds decided to go back to their village to start dairy farming and train youngsters interested in rock climbing. “Initially, the womenfolk used to taunt my wife for not wearing the sari but sporting jeans. They used to question why Pournima does not wear a mangalsutra or the bindi. We were also not invited to village temple functions. All this was strange for both of us,” Yelange, who stays in a tiny hamlet, Yelangewadi, recalled.

When the couple started dairy farming on their ancestral property, the villagers did not allow them to fetch water from the village tap for the buffaloes.

So, the Everest conqueror has to trek uphill for nearly 20 minutes daily to fill water from a reservoir for his cattle.

“The breaking point came around two months ago when around 38 families wrote to the gram panchayat that they should not be held responsible if my buffalo shed catches fire. To safeguard my dairy farming, I also wrote a letter to Poladpur police station stating that I was concerned and disturbed by the letter written to the panchayat,” said Yelange. He added, “Apart from Mt Everest, I have scaled 16 more peaks as a mountaineer. However, I find it much more difficult to deal with the people of my own village. Why should we be isolated only because we are an educated and modern couple trying to go back to our roots and our interests?”

Reportedly, since Rahul and Pournima had a registered court marriage in Pune in January, 2014, before moving back to the village, some locals mistook it for an inter-caste marriage and so did not approve it. “Only after I came back to my village did I come to know of things like social boycott. I also know of another family that has been unofficially boycotted for more than 10 years now over some superstitious reason. All these social problems can only be resolved through education and scientific temperament,” said Yelange.
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http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/navi-mumbai/Everest-conqueror-shunned-by-village/articleshow/45904607.cms

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Honour killing:Delhi University girl murdered over inter-caste marriage, parents arrested

New Delhi: In case of honour killing, the parents of a 21-year-old Delhi university student has been arrested for allegedly murdering her.

Bhawna Yadav, a final year student of Sanskrit Honours at Venkateswara College, was allegedly strangled to death by her parents Jagmohan Yadav, a property dealer and his wife Savitri.

Her husband Abhishek said, her parents reached his home that very night and said that they would get them married in a grand function and took their daughter with them.

On Saturday night, Abhishek got a call from Bhawna’s maternal uncle Lakhan who allegedly threatened to kill both of them. “Minutes later, I got a call from Bhawna that her uncle was drunk and he should ignore him. The next morning, repeated calls on Bhawna and her parent’s number went unanswered. Sometime later, I got a call from her cousin Sachin who informed me that Bhawna was cremated in Alwar, following which I approached police,” said Abhishek in his police complaint.

One of Bhawna’s neighbour Mahinder told police that her parents told him that she was bitten by a snake and he drove them to their ancestral place in Alwar in his car for some ‘tantrik rituals’ to get her cured. “Mahinder told us that Bhawna appeared to be dead when she was kept in his car,” the police official added. Following the disclosure, police nabbed the parents from their house.

 

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Inter-caste marriage activist in poll fray

A woman activist, who has helped around 200 couples in solemnizing their marriages, mostly inter-caste marriage, is trying her luck in Haryana assembly elections 2014. Shakuntala Jakhar is the CPI (M) candidate from Nalwa constituency in Hisar district.

Shakuntala, 47, who has even faced life threats in a state infamous for honour killings, is like a helpline for young couples who going for inter-caste marriage. She not only helps such couples get married by helping them with legal papers and logistics, but also ensures their safety at times when their own families become their enemies.
She filed her nomination on September 23 and is now busy with campaign. “My opponents accuse me of misguiding the lovers. They don’t even want that we raise the issues concerning women’s rights. “When we don’t hesitate in bringing brides from other states due to skewed gender ratio, without asking for their caste, then why are there so many obstacles in local inter-caste marriages,” she asked the audience at one of her roadside rallies. However, the poll battle won’t be an easy task for this activist. The Left has limited influence in Haryana where caste is still the biggest influence when it comes to voting.

Shakuntla, who has limited resources compared with her opponents, is being supported by fellow activists from across the state. “Whenever any defiant couple meets us, we just refer the case to Shakuntala,” said Vikram Mittal, a Hisar-based advocate who is helping her with the campaign. The path to help lovers has not been a tough one for Shakuntala. In 2010, she received death threat in a case where a dalit boy wanted to marry a Jat Sikh girl despite opposition from her parents. When Shakuntla reached the local court in Hisar to help the young couple, she was attacked by the girl’s family. Braving the odds, she not still facilitated the marriage.

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http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/gurgaon/Inter-caste-marriage-activist-in-poll-fray/articleshow/43467222.cms

 

 

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Marriage bureau to promote inter-caste marriages

started marriage bureau to promote inter-caste marriages

 

The Lions Club of Palanpur has started marriage bureau that promote inter-caste marriages.

This is good news for those couples who are going for inter caste marriage.Inter caste marriages are very common now a days but still couple has to face a number of problems in their marriages.

The people who attends launching of the bureau were of the opinion that caste system and religious discrimination are major hurdles in the path of India’s progress.

The Lions Marriage Bureau (LMB), social reformer and convener of Kabir Ashram Sadhvi Sarlaben said, “It is a welcome step on the part of the club.”

President of the club Yasin Bangalwala said, “Usually, elders do not involve youngsters in arranging marriages. It is our maiden attempt to give the right to youth to choose their life partners themselves.”

The bureau, said club will charge nothing from those coming to the bureau and will provide them with all the necessary help in getting married.

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http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/City/Rajkot/Marriage-bureau-started-to-promote-inter-caste-weddings/articleshow/42015326.cms

 

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Inter caste love marriages

inter caste love marriages

Inter caste love marriages is one of biggest problem in today’s life. Inter caste marriages are mostly happens because of love. When you love someone and decide to marry , you first have to answer people to which caste or religion he/she belongs? Inter-caste marriages are not easily accepted in our family and society.Parents think our society will not accept this and not even us.Whole community will break  any relation with the family where inter caste marriage had taken place.They believe that the couple will not be able to settle down and religiously follow each other’s culture ,the children born out of the inter-caste marriage will not be perfect.

These societies need some change of views so that young hearts  live happily.Though we can see inter caste marriages today , but mostly it is in city culture.The rural area of the country still not accepted inter caste love marriages.

Government should come forward to make such policies and rules which can encourage marriage between the members of two different castes. There should be some type of appreciation from the government so that more inter caste marriages can take place.

Many State governments in India started proving special incentives for inter caste marriage.

Inter-caste-marriages-benefits

Though government has taken many steps to improve the situation but still there is a great need to implement more measures to make the situation happier.

 

 

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Arrange marriage or love marriage ?

Arrange marriage or love marriage ?

Arrange marriage or love marriage ? Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better.In love marriage you know the person and you know that you want to be with him/her. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and they want their partner to act in the best possible manner.
While in arranged marriages you don’t know more about your partner.In Arranged marriages the women get more protection and security as parents decide it.

Arrange marriage or love marriage  is just a question in minds of married couples who are not satisfied or are frightened to live with an unknown partner for whole life.

In many cases arrange marriage that turned into love and now in divorce or love marriages turned into arranged and now having in divorce.
So in our views it doesn’t matter arrange or love its just depends on each others understanding.Every one has their own experience about it.Neither a love marriage nor a arranged marriage can guarantee success and both have their own advantages and disadvantages.These are not dependent on the marriage types but the partners.

Arrange marriage or love marriage ? What you think ?

 

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Bollywood Inter community marriages

Bollywood inter community marriages

 

There is no boundaries in love. Bollywood is filled with number of such celebs who looked beyond their cultural differences and decided to get married to the person they fell in love with.Our society must learn a few things from our very own Bollywood.

Check out few bollywood inter community marriages
Shah Rukh Khan and Gauri who have been together for more than 20 years.
Arbaaz Khan married Malaika Arora ,Sohail Khan married Seema Sachdev and Alvira Khan settled down with Atul Agnihotri.The evergreen Tamilian beauty, Sridevi,  married Boney Kapoor, a Punjabi, which never affected their love. Similarly, He-man of Bollywood, Punjabi boy, Dharmendra in love with Hema Malini, an Tamil Brahmin. Amitabh Bachchan, is a Srivastava Kayastha, while Jaya Bhaduri, is a Bengali.
Sunil Dutt – Nargis

Shashi Kapoor – Jennifer Kendel

Feroz Khan – Sundari

Farooq Sheikh – Roopa Jain

Naseeruddin Shah – Ratna Pathak

Raj Babbar – Nadira Zaheer

Sanjay Dutt – Dilnawaz Sheikh (Manyata)

Sunil Shetty – Mana Kadri

Vindu Dara Singh – Farah Naaz (divorced); Dina Umarova

Aamir Khan – Reena Dutta (divorced)
– Kiran Rao

Shahrukh Khan – Gauri Chibber

Arjun Rampal – Mehr Jessia

Arbaaz Khan – Malaika Arora

Sohail Khan – Seema Sachdev

Saif Ali Khan – Amrita Singh (divorced)
– Kareena kapoor

Javed Akhtar – Honey Irani (divorced)

Farhan Akhtar – Adhuna Bhabani

Zayed Khan – Mallaika Parekh

Waheeda Rehman – Kanwaljeet Singh

Sushila Charak (Salma); Helen Richardson – Salim Khan

Sharmila Tagore – Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi

Zarina Wahab – Aditya Pancholi

Reena Roy – Mohsin Khan

Sangita Bijlani – Mohammed Azharuddin

Madhu Sapre – Gian Maria

Nafisa Ali – Col. R S Sodhi

Farah Khan – Shirish Kunder

Alvira Khan – Atul Agnihotri

Ritesh Deshmukh – Genelia D’Souza

Esha Deol – Bharat Takthani

Shilpa Shetty – Raj Kundra

Vidya Balan –  Siddharth Roy Kapoor

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Couples going for inter-caste marriage should get protection

 

A human rights forum says that Government should frame rules to protect those who opt for inter-caste marriages

Dalits who marry girls of other communities with their full consent and their supporters have become the target of attacks.S0 those couples going for inter-caste marriage should get protection from Government.

Therefore, the government should make suitable rules to give due protection to those who opt for inter-caste marriages, according to R.Murugappan, coordinator of the Social Awareness Society for Youths, a human rights forum.

The Tamil Nadu government too had been encouraging inter-caste marriages by giving away incentives ranging from Rs 10,000 to Rs 20,000 of which a part would be paid in cash and a major portion deposited in the National Savings Certificate.

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http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/puducherry/couples-going-for-intercaste-marriage-should-get-protection/article6220594.ece

 

 

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Khap panchayat allows inter caste marriages in Haryana

Khap panchayat allows inter-caste marriages

Khap panchayat  allows inter caste marriages in Haryana  within 42 villages. But marriage within the same village, same gotras and bordering  villages is prohibited.The historic decision was taken by the khap panchayat. This help in reducing the number of  wrongs things like honour killings. 

The decision has been welcomed by various other khap panchayats in Haryana and many of them are starts implementing the decision in their respective regions as well.Some khap panchayats  opposed the decision.

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woman killed for marrying a man from other caste in pakistan

Hello friends very bad news but from Pakistan. “Woman killed for marriying a man from other caste in pakistan”.
Farzana who was just 20 years old, was killed by three of her family members who were against her inter caste marriage to Shabir who 26 years old.
Interesting thing about this story is, infront of panchayat of their village two conflicting tribal accepted the marraige .
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