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Inspired by recently-released Marathi movie Sairat, a group of youngsters has joined hands to create a network to support inter-caste and inter-religious marriages. The group, apart from counselling, will find jobs for the couples and offer them protection in extreme situations.
Sairat Marriage Group was formed following heated discussions on social media over the movie. “When we posted in support of the film, critics taunted us to do something in real. We said yes,” said Harshal Lohkare, a volunteer, who is studying journalism.
The word spread like wildfire and within one-and-a-half weeks, they started getting calls expressing willingness to volunteer for the cause. Activists in support of such marriages came forward with suggestions.
“Six couples have already approached us and we are counselling them. We first understand their problems, which range from unemployment to caste and religion boundaries. Our job is to initiate dialogue and provide all possible help the couples need,” he said.
The group is likely to contact recruitment agencies and HR departments of companies to find jobs for the couples. Besides, around 20 flats in Pune have been identified where the couples can stay free of cost for at least two-three months after their marriage, if families refuse to budge.
Rajasthan governmentt promotes inter-caste marriage with Rs 5 lakh reward.Government announced that couples of inter-caste marriages will be entitled to Rs. 5 lakh. The government has raised the sum inorder to promote inter-caste marriages. Earlier the amount for such marriages was Rs. 50, 000.For that one should belong to the upper caste while the other should be born in a lower caste family in order to make themselves entitled for the reward.
The Supreme Court agreed to hear the plea of a newly-wed couple seeking protection from their kin.The couple’s plea was mentioned for urgent hearing before a vacation bench of Justices P C Pant and Amitava Roy, with their lawyer seeking a direction to the police to grant them protection.
According to the plea, an adult girl solemnised Inter-caste marriage with one Ashish, a resident of Uttar Pradesh, in an Arya Samaj temple as per Hindu rites against the wishes of her family.
The girl, hailing from Haryana, was residing “happily with her husband in Faridabad”, the plea said and claimed that her parents, on the directions of a ‘khap panchayat’, were trying kill her and her husband.
Khap panchayats, prevalent in northern India, are village councils generally dominated by members of a single clan or caste.
The couple has claimed they had approached the police in Faridabad seeking protection, but did not get any support.
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Inter-caste marriages are still considered a taboo even in a cosmopolitan city like Bengaluru. This was evident when enumerators conducting the survey visited some houses in the city.
Though there are many who have tied the knot from different castes, they are opposedto talk about it.Enumerators are finding it difficult to get the column on inter-caste marriage filled as couples are refusing to reveal their caste, especially if one of them belongs to a backward caste.
Many women, who opted for inter-caste marriage, refused to specify the caste of their spouses separately. They want to identify themselves with the caste of their husband’s family, said KC Kalavathi, a school teacher leading the survey in Ganganagar, north Bengaluru.
According to enumerator C Puttaswamy, some inter-caste couples said they have chosen to lead a life away from the caste hierarchy and should be considered ‘casteless.’
There is confusion over which caste should the inter-caste couple declare for their children. Several citizens who have converted (not officially) without the consent of their community elders are worried about the caste segment, since it will play a major role in seat and job reservations.
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Any couple opting for inter-caste marriage in Haryana will now get Rs1 lakh as cash reward against Rs50,000, which was given earlier. The State Government on Thursday decided to increase the cash reward under the inter-caste marriage scheme. The decision was taken at a meeting of the State-level Vigilance and Monitoring Committee held here under the chairmanship of Chief Minister Manohar Lal.
The Chief Minister said that with the hike in the reward money, the number of inter-caste marriage would surely go up and help in removing caste discrimination. He said that such assistance should be provided through bank accounts under the Pradhanmantri Jan-Dhan Yojana. The department should work on how to make the process the shortest so that financial assistance can be provided to the beneficiaries without any delay.
Shocking incident, Rahul Yelange, who was successfully climbed Mount Everest in May 2012, was boycotted by elders of his own Budruk village in Raigadh district of Maharashtra.
The problem started last March when the newlyweds decided to go back to their village to start dairy farming and train youngsters interested in rock climbing. “Initially, the womenfolk used to taunt my wife for not wearing the sari but sporting jeans. They used to question why Pournima does not wear a mangalsutra or the bindi. We were also not invited to village temple functions. All this was strange for both of us,” Yelange, who stays in a tiny hamlet, Yelangewadi, recalled.
When the couple started dairy farming on their ancestral property, the villagers did not allow them to fetch water from the village tap for the buffaloes.
So, the Everest conqueror has to trek uphill for nearly 20 minutes daily to fill water from a reservoir for his cattle.
“The breaking point came around two months ago when around 38 families wrote to the gram panchayat that they should not be held responsible if my buffalo shed catches fire. To safeguard my dairy farming, I also wrote a letter to Poladpur police station stating that I was concerned and disturbed by the letter written to the panchayat,” said Yelange. He added, “Apart from Mt Everest, I have scaled 16 more peaks as a mountaineer. However, I find it much more difficult to deal with the people of my own village. Why should we be isolated only because we are an educated and modern couple trying to go back to our roots and our interests?”
Reportedly, since Rahul and Pournima had a registered court marriage in Pune in January, 2014, before moving back to the village, some locals mistook it for an inter-caste marriage and so did not approve it. “Only after I came back to my village did I come to know of things like social boycott. I also know of another family that has been unofficially boycotted for more than 10 years now over some superstitious reason. All these social problems can only be resolved through education and scientific temperament,” said Yelange.
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New Delhi: In case of honour killing, the parents of a 21-year-old Delhi university student has been arrested for allegedly murdering her.
Bhawna Yadav, a final year student of Sanskrit Honours at Venkateswara College, was allegedly strangled to death by her parents Jagmohan Yadav, a property dealer and his wife Savitri.
Her husband Abhishek said, her parents reached his home that very night and said that they would get them married in a grand function and took their daughter with them.
On Saturday night, Abhishek got a call from Bhawna’s maternal uncle Lakhan who allegedly threatened to kill both of them. “Minutes later, I got a call from Bhawna that her uncle was drunk and he should ignore him. The next morning, repeated calls on Bhawna and her parent’s number went unanswered. Sometime later, I got a call from her cousin Sachin who informed me that Bhawna was cremated in Alwar, following which I approached police,” said Abhishek in his police complaint.
One of Bhawna’s neighbour Mahinder told police that her parents told him that she was bitten by a snake and he drove them to their ancestral place in Alwar in his car for some ‘tantrik rituals’ to get her cured. “Mahinder told us that Bhawna appeared to be dead when she was kept in his car,” the police official added. Following the disclosure, police nabbed the parents from their house.
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In indian marriages just five per cent of Indians said they had married a person from a different caste, says the first direct estimate of inter-caste marriages in India.
The India Human Development Survey (IHDS), conducted by the National Council for Applied Economic Research (NCAER) and the University of Maryland, also reported that 30 per cent of rural and 20 per cent of urban households said they practised untouchability. The IHDS is the largest non-government, pan-Indian household survey. It covers over 42,000 households, representative by class and social group. Its findings, yet to be made public, were shared exclusively with The Hindu. When married women aged between 15 and 49 were asked if theirs was an inter-caste marriage, just 5.4 per cent said yes, the proportion being marginally higher for urban over rural India.
There was no change in this proportion from the previous round of the IHDS (2004-05). Inter-caste marriages were rarest in Madhya Pradesh (under 1 per cent) and most common in Gujarat and Bihar (over 11 per cent).
“This was an indirect way of estimating the extent of inter-caste marriages. We cannot say if it was accurate, but it was a way to approach the truth,” Dr. K.C. Das, Professor in the Department of Migration and Urban Studies at the Mumbai-based International Institute of Population Sciences (IIPS), explained to The Hindu.
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A woman activist, who has helped around 200 couples in solemnizing their marriages, mostly inter-caste marriage, is trying her luck in Haryana assembly elections 2014. Shakuntala Jakhar is the CPI (M) candidate from Nalwa constituency in Hisar district.
Shakuntala, 47, who has even faced life threats in a state infamous for honour killings, is like a helpline for young couples who going for inter-caste marriage. She not only helps such couples get married by helping them with legal papers and logistics, but also ensures their safety at times when their own families become their enemies.
She filed her nomination on September 23 and is now busy with campaign. “My opponents accuse me of misguiding the lovers. They don’t even want that we raise the issues concerning women’s rights. “When we don’t hesitate in bringing brides from other states due to skewed gender ratio, without asking for their caste, then why are there so many obstacles in local inter-caste marriages,” she asked the audience at one of her roadside rallies. However, the poll battle won’t be an easy task for this activist. The Left has limited influence in Haryana where caste is still the biggest influence when it comes to voting.
Shakuntla, who has limited resources compared with her opponents, is being supported by fellow activists from across the state. “Whenever any defiant couple meets us, we just refer the case to Shakuntala,” said Vikram Mittal, a Hisar-based advocate who is helping her with the campaign. The path to help lovers has not been a tough one for Shakuntala. In 2010, she received death threat in a case where a dalit boy wanted to marry a Jat Sikh girl despite opposition from her parents. When Shakuntla reached the local court in Hisar to help the young couple, she was attacked by the girl’s family. Braving the odds, she not still facilitated the marriage.
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The Lions Club of Palanpur has started marriage bureau that promote inter-caste marriages.
This is good news for those couples who are going for inter caste marriage.Inter caste marriages are very common now a days but still couple has to face a number of problems in their marriages.
The people who attends launching of the bureau were of the opinion that caste system and religious discrimination are major hurdles in the path of India’s progress.
The Lions Marriage Bureau (LMB), social reformer and convener of Kabir Ashram Sadhvi Sarlaben said, “It is a welcome step on the part of the club.”
President of the club Yasin Bangalwala said, “Usually, elders do not involve youngsters in arranging marriages. It is our maiden attempt to give the right to youth to choose their life partners themselves.”
The bureau, said club will charge nothing from those coming to the bureau and will provide them with all the necessary help in getting married.
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Inter caste love marriages is one of biggest problem in today’s life. Inter caste marriages are mostly happens because of love. When you love someone and decide to marry , you first have to answer people to which caste or religion he/she belongs? Inter-caste marriages are not easily accepted in our family and society.Parents think our society will not accept this and not even us.Whole community will break any relation with the family where inter caste marriage had taken place.They believe that the couple will not be able to settle down and religiously follow each other’s culture ,the children born out of the inter-caste marriage will not be perfect.
These societies need some change of views so that young hearts live happily.Though we can see inter caste marriages today , but mostly it is in city culture.The rural area of the country still not accepted inter caste love marriages.
Government should come forward to make such policies and rules which can encourage marriage between the members of two different castes. There should be some type of appreciation from the government so that more inter caste marriages can take place.
Many State governments in India started proving special incentives for inter caste marriage.
Though government has taken many steps to improve the situation but still there is a great need to implement more measures to make the situation happier.
Arrange marriage or love marriage ? Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better.In love marriage you know the person and you know that you want to be with him/her. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and they want their partner to act in the best possible manner.
While in arranged marriages you don’t know more about your partner.In Arranged marriages the women get more protection and security as parents decide it.
Arrange marriage or love marriage is just a question in minds of married couples who are not satisfied or are frightened to live with an unknown partner for whole life.
In many cases arrange marriage that turned into love and now in divorce or love marriages turned into arranged and now having in divorce.
So in our views it doesn’t matter arrange or love its just depends on each others understanding.Every one has their own experience about it.Neither a love marriage nor a arranged marriage can guarantee success and both have their own advantages and disadvantages.These are not dependent on the marriage types but the partners.
Arrange marriage or love marriage ? What you think ?
There is no boundaries in love. Bollywood is filled with number of such celebs who looked beyond their cultural differences and decided to get married to the person they fell in love with.Our society must learn a few things from our very own Bollywood.
Check out few bollywood inter community marriages
Shah Rukh Khan and Gauri who have been together for more than 20 years.
Arbaaz Khan married Malaika Arora ,Sohail Khan married Seema Sachdev and Alvira Khan settled down with Atul Agnihotri.The evergreen Tamilian beauty, Sridevi, married Boney Kapoor, a Punjabi, which never affected their love. Similarly, He-man of Bollywood, Punjabi boy, Dharmendra in love with Hema Malini, an Tamil Brahmin. Amitabh Bachchan, is a Srivastava Kayastha, while Jaya Bhaduri, is a Bengali.
Sunil Dutt – Nargis
Shashi Kapoor – Jennifer Kendel
Feroz Khan – Sundari
Farooq Sheikh – Roopa Jain
Naseeruddin Shah – Ratna Pathak
Raj Babbar – Nadira Zaheer
Sanjay Dutt – Dilnawaz Sheikh (Manyata)
Sunil Shetty – Mana Kadri
Vindu Dara Singh – Farah Naaz (divorced); Dina Umarova
Aamir Khan – Reena Dutta (divorced)
– Kiran Rao
Shahrukh Khan – Gauri Chibber
Arjun Rampal – Mehr Jessia
Arbaaz Khan – Malaika Arora
Sohail Khan – Seema Sachdev
Saif Ali Khan – Amrita Singh (divorced)
– Kareena kapoor
Javed Akhtar – Honey Irani (divorced)
Farhan Akhtar – Adhuna Bhabani
Zayed Khan – Mallaika Parekh
Waheeda Rehman – Kanwaljeet Singh
Sushila Charak (Salma); Helen Richardson – Salim Khan
Sharmila Tagore – Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi
Zarina Wahab – Aditya Pancholi
Reena Roy – Mohsin Khan
Sangita Bijlani – Mohammed Azharuddin
Madhu Sapre – Gian Maria
Nafisa Ali – Col. R S Sodhi
Farah Khan – Shirish Kunder
Alvira Khan – Atul Agnihotri
Ritesh Deshmukh – Genelia D’Souza
Esha Deol – Bharat Takthani
Shilpa Shetty – Raj Kundra
Vidya Balan – Siddharth Roy Kapoor